Thought for the week, ACIM T-4.IV.2,”I have said that you cannot change your mind by changing your behavior, but I have also said, and many times, that you can change your mind. 2 When your mood tells you that you have chosen wrongly, and this is so whenever you are not joyous, then know this need not be”
We are going to review the simple lesson tomorrow, “This need not be.” I really love how the course lays this simple guidance out. Whenever we are not feeling joyous, know this need not be. The course goes on to say:
When you are sad, know this need not be
When you are anxious, know this need not be
When you feel guilty, know this need not be
When you dis-spiriting or fatigue, know this need not be
None of these states are your natural inheritance. If we are feeling this separation then something or someone has moved from their natural state. None of these states are necessary even during the most stressful times. Even during death, war, and major stressors. You still don’t need these states in your mind. Ideally, the beetles had it right, “All you need is love.”
To me, this is an inspiring state of hope. To know that if any of these conditions are in my life, I know this need not be. With this simple tool, I can reflect how to change my mind to a state of something better when I fall into these states.
I remember one time, driving home, and reflecting upon my life during a very stressful time. I was going through divorce, didn’t know if I could keep my house, and thinking about how the divorce would affect my children, friends, family, and of course me. I was definitely feeling loss and a huge change in my life. I cried to myself.
However, believe it or not, it was not tears of sadness coming from a state of hopelessness, clinging, or the loss itself. It was tears of appreciation and awe and wonder of all that this life had to offer. The overwhelming sensations of all the emotions busting out of my heart all at once. The experience left me in a state of awe. Is this what the course means by love? The loss and the opportunity, the uncertainty in this world but a sense of complete certainty that I was not alone and something will work itself out. It was, quite frankly, overwhelmingly beautiful. I was full of love.
It was like watching a great “chick-flick” movie where you cry for the main characters because you care and the movie is tragic, but you are not involved. Here I was, at the center of my own movie, and yet not in desperation and despair. It was as if I was just “watching it, I cared, and it was tragic.” Tears of love.
When tempted, “know this need not be.” Anybody else experience this before? Want to know more?